Monday, July 25, 2011

Coming in and out of your life...

That title is from a Barbra Streisand song that I loved...perhaps in middle school? That seems odd to me, that I would like that song at that age, but I loved to hear Barbra belt it out, while playing the record. (For all you under 25, that's a plastic thing that music used to come on that was played with a needle...odd I know) Anyway, I heard on the radio that every 7 years or so, 50% of your friends are no longer your friends. ponder, ponder, ponder...I have found myself saying lately on more than one occasion, that SO many people have come and gone from my life recently and I really wasn't appreciating it. I'm thinking we lose friends so often, because people change jobs so often...you think? I have been extremely blessed to have maintained friendships from my last job (one I was at for 9 years), especially when the job was in a daycare where you see your friends and their children for 9 or 10 hours every day where everyone is so close, I count myself lucky. I still have a few friends from a job I had for 9 years before that. Hmmmm, there seems to be a trend with the 9 year thing...Anyway, the point I'm making is this...friendships have to be maintained. They do. When one of my best friends left for greener pastures, we committed that if we had to we would schedule time to see each other! Doesn't that sound crazy? But...it worked. We used to schedule scrapbooking trips and then when our budgets got tighter, we scheduled scrapbooking nights. Well, our last night of scrapbooking, I'm not sure anyone scrapbooked, but we all sure did chit chat and catch up and it was wonderful. We looked at Lia Sophia, we talked about soap operas, we talked about who knew who and who lived a few houses from my daughter's boyfriend. I suggested maybe next we should schedule dinner and movie so we can all just chat!! Those nights I cherish and the time flies so fast. We always try to schedule our next get together right away or before we know it, kids have gone off to college! Ok, maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration...but you know, time gets away from you and next thing you know, 50% of your friends are gone!

To digress and share a memory from my baby book: My mom wrote, Jacque doesn't like when anyone goes bye bye without her. Odd isn't it...it's only a few years later :) and I still don't like when people go bye bye without me! So, here's the thing...if you're in my life, make an effort to stay there ok? I'll do the same...

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3 comments:

Shari said...

I think it's so hard to keep friends for the long-term. It's not that you don't want to be friends anymore, it's just that life gets in the way. I have a few girlfriends I see once or twice a year. I tell them that as long as we see each other once a year we'll still be friends once our kids are grown and we're bored! They laugh, but know it's true. If too much time goes by, we'll just lose touch.

Lori said...

I just read this and cried. It's just soooo true!!! I know for me personally, it's just as "Shari" wrote, that life gets in the way. Yet, I think I am supposed to be in charge of at least SOME of my life, so I better arrange "life" to make time for my friends! And whether that is once a month or once a year, I better be grateful for the time I get with them!

And you are right when you wrote, "make an effort to stay there, I'll do the same".

Jacque said...

When friends left my last job,we committed to scrapping once a month to stay in touch and hence, scrap night was born! It's been gosh I think 5 or 6 years, and we still hang out. We also have reunion breakfasts with past & present staff...it keeps us in touch until...as Shari says our kids are grown and I have a little more time for me! I'm actually already experiencing that just with the onset of driving licenses!