Sunday, May 31, 2009
It seemed the jet lag from three years of grad school is finally behind me. My energy has returned and I feel like I'm on the path to some semblance of normalcy in my life. Don't get me wrong, there are many many (so many) projects that are yet to be caught up, but at least I'm on my way. Friday I did normal things like clean out, wash and fill up the car, went shopping for some more flowers with the mother in law and out to dinner. Saturday, I played ALL DAY!!! Spent time with my great niece, nieces, great nephews and in laws. I took my girls for some much needed clothes shopping, played at the mall with the baby girl and then headed to Chuck E. Cheese for my great nephew's birthday party. That night the hubby and I ran errands, bought mulch, completed one of the flower beds and spent some time chilling out. Today I was up BRIGHT and early and met a friend for breakfast at 6:45 after a much needed girly chat session, I was off to church to greet and enjoy the service. The girls headed to Magic Waters with their new season passes (even though it was only 70 degrees) and I got busy...laundry, scrubbed my kitchen, replaced light bulbs, cleaned the outside of the fridge, bleached, disinfected, killed germs and generally overhauled the kitchen :) It is so sparkling! I planted flowers around two more trees tonight and only have two to go before that project is done. I got my calendar all organized for the summer, added all of the kids sporting events, and now...I'm puttin on the walkman, grabbing a flashlight and the dog, and heading out to enjoy this beautiful night air. I have another busy week ahead...teaching two nights, therapist one night, a friends party another night, working at church on Friday night, softball kick off, a wedding, and dinner at my nieces on Saturday...and then...the baby girl on Sunday :) Hope to find some time to clean some kitchen cabinets this week too.
Oh yeah, I almost forgot...I signed up for spark people today to finally get the diet underway. I am really hoping to be totally committed. The precious one and I signed up together so hopefully we can encourage each other.
Have a fabulous week!
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Friday, May 22, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Tonight I had the joy and honor of attending my daughter's choir banquet. She notified me last night at half past ten of said banquet and then politely added that she would be going with her boyfriend's family. No where was my attendance mentioned. These are the reasons I ponder parenting...have I gone wrong somewhere? I know that at her age it is TOTALLY appropriate and expected for a subtle separation to begin taking place. I know this!! Books have taught me this...research has shown this is completely healthy. However....(pause) I do not like it...not one little bit! After much cajoling and coercing I convinced dear daughter that perhaps my presence wouldn't be too awkward or annoying at said banquet and perhaps I could indeed attend after all. I sat at the table with the love of her life, his brother, and his parents. I had a great time. As I sat and observed in my social worker type way...I realized that my big girl...is just that...she is the big girl...responsible, opinionated, at times aloof, confident, oh and beautiful...then there is the love of her life...smiley, bubbly, happy, lighthearted...definitely the youngest. Now...my brain and research tells me this is a good match...he can show her how to live a little and she can help him be responsible. Nice, complimentary, equitable...all in all a nice match. Of course I pondered his parents parenting...much more restrictive than mine it appears, much more detail oriented...yet effective...thereby creating a fabulous son. He so reminds me of my youngest daughter...Hmmmm....what's the point of this post you ask? I'm not really sure actually...it's just the random thoughts that run through my mind on a day to day basis. Isn't that, after all what blogging is all about? ~grin~
After I pondered my big girl's budding relationship...I pondered my own...The honey and I...often times are not complimentary...we're both the youngest...both irresponsible, bubbly, having too much fun, and often just flying by the seat of our pants. At times it's a chaotic ride...but I love it...it's my way of life :) I do believe that this is why the big girl is often annoyed with me...perhaps. Who knows what those 'oldest children' are thinking! Observing them tonight made me think back to the old days...long ago...when the hubby and I were contemplating having babies...comparing parenting styles...to spank or not to spank...2 kids or 10....boy or girl (like we had a choice!) Ever have those talks? Little did I know then what a joy and a challenge parenting would be...and then you get to the point...where your oldest most responsible child is late coming home...yet again...after you had the 'don't make me ground you and be all parental on you' talk...and you wonder...will it all be ok? Will they be a success? Will they be happy? For their sake and mine...I hope so!
Sunday, May 17, 2009
The neighbor that is not winning lawn of the month
After the choir show, I headed home to whip up a quick pot of spaghetti to take over to my niece's house. She and her husband just moved into their new house this weekend. What a beautiful house they have and so much room! No matter how I tried, they just didn't seem to want to go back to their old apartment...go figure! ! The baby girl Aubrey loves her new house too...she can run and run and no one asks her to stop for fear of disturbing the neighbors. Such a joyous time for them...Congratulations!
It's pretty late Sunday night...I have gotten the paper read, but of course haven't started the laundry yet. So...gotta run! Until next time...
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
On to other news...my sonshine is 15 today. Again...listen...15! Did you hear that? I did discover today perhaps for the first time that having a 13, 15, and 16 year old in the same house may be more than I can take. It does make me wonder what I was thinking 18 years ago when we decided to have our children so close. I thought they would be buddies and playmates and friends...sadly I thought wrong. We are in the throws of sibling rivalry or sibling hate or sibling wish harmful things on each other or whatever you'd like to call it, but it is less than pleasant. It is very obvious for me that my absence over the past 3 years has had an impact. It is definitely time to relearn table manners, polite behavior, how to follow rules, and for Pete's sake how to pick up after yourself. Notice I didn't even mention the smart mouths or foul attitudes. I'm hoping that just goes away in time...perhaps when they have children of their own back talking them (I know...my mother's voice is coming out of my mouth!) I definitely have my work cut out for me...in 2, 4 and 5 years these socially inept beings will be on their own. God help us all. Creating responsible adults out of teenagers has got to be bumped to the top of my priority list. It's odd, when I would think about them becoming teenagers, I imagined this utopia where my house would be picked up, they would help with laundry, yard work, and the like...and they'd happily say yes mother to anything I asked. WAKE UP YOU DREAMER!!!! TIS NOT SO!!! Don't get me wrong...I love them with every ounce of my being...every one...but there are days...let's just say...there are days...and leave it at that ;)
The sonshine is having his party on Friday night and my graduation party is on Saturday. Sunday is the big girls choir concert and Monday the Mama leaves for Arizona. I was kind of thinking life would slow down a bit...but I haven't felt it. I'm grateful to be happy, employed x 3, married to a great guy and the mother of three cantankerous teenagers. This is the life...
Monday, May 11, 2009
Sunday, May 10, 2009
without whom none of this would have been possible...hey honey...you make a pretty handsome Mr. Mom!
Saturday, May 9, 2009
The we posed for some pictures...alpa and omega